Sextortion Explained: How to Protect Your Kids from Online Blackmail
Picture this: Your teen meets someone online who seems friendly and relatable. Within minutes, this “friend” gains their trust, maybe even sends an intimate photo first, asking your child to do the same. What your child doesn’t know is that it's all part of the trap because this person then threatens to expose their image unless your child complies.
Sextortion is one of the most common online threats that our kids face today. It’s a form of digital blackmail where a predator threatens to share intimate photos unless the victim meets their demands, like sending more images or money.
This is every parent’s worst nightmare, but we’re here to tell you: you’re not powerless here. By working together, we can ensure kids know how to spot the red flags and be comfortable enough to come to you when it matters most!
So, what do you need to know?
Most times, sextortion will start on social media apps like Instagram or Snapchat, and then move to more private chats.
It’s a gendered issue, with 9 out of 10 cases affecting boys and men.
Boys are often targeted for money.
Girls and others are usually coerced into sending more images.
14-17 year old teens are the highest at-risk, but anyone can be a target.
What Red Flags to Look Out For
Kids don’t always openly say when something is wrong, but their behavior can give you clues. You can watch for:
Secrecy: Are they protective of their phones, shutting screens when you’re nearby?
Mood Swings: Anxiety, fear, or withdrawal can all be signs they’re struggling.
New apps or accounts: Unfamiliar platforms or sudden changes in online activity could mean they’re trying to manage something on their own.
If you notice these signs, don’t just straight into panic, think of it as an opportunity to open conversation and check in.
What to Do if it Happens
Should sextortion affect your family, how you respond can make all the difference:
Avoid shame: Remind your child that this isn’t their fault and that you’re in this together.
Document everything: Screenshot messages, usernames, and other evidence. Make sure not to delete the account or any of the materials being used to blackmail.
Cease communication: Block the predator and don’t engage further.
Report it: Reach out to Cybertip.ca, local authorities, or the platform directly.
Seek support: Connecting with counselors or experts can help your child process the experience.
Let’s Take Action Together
Not sure how to bring it up with your kids? Start with our Sextortion Quiz: This interactive tool helps your family learn how to spot risks and stay safe together:
At Exploitation Education, we’re here to back you up with resources, expert advice, and real solutions. And remember, this isn’t about fear, it’s about giving your kids the confidence to come to you first.
